Its ok to be there for your kids
Its ok to be there for your husband.
Its ok to be there for your parents/grandparents.
Its ok to be there for Brother/Sister.
Boyfriend, friends, cousins. Etc…
But what is not ok, is showing up for everyone else but yourself. YOU ARE NO GOOD TO ANYONE, IF YOUR NOT GOOD TO YOURSELF!!!!! This is a repetitive cycle so many women experience. And before you know it, your frustrated, bitter, depressed, overwhelmed, confused, just flat foot emotional.
Why? Because we never evaluate the needs from the wants. There are a lot of things we need to do. There are a lot of things that we want to do. But there are a lot of things we do not have to do. Yes, to everyone and everything ends up being a No for you. We must learn how to say No and not right now. Without giving an explanation to the offended that we need me time. Healthy, Mental health is a must with us as women. If we neglect it, we can manifest physical, spiritual and emotional problems in our life.
Physical problems (anxiety, migraines, sleep issues, digestive issues, etc.) https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/mental-illness-can-cause-physical-symptoms
Spiritual (doubting God, too busy to pray, to busy to read, to busy to worship/fellowship etc.)https://teamjesusmag.com/christians-mental-illness-and-medication-where-does-god-fit
Emotional (depression, stress, anxiety, body shaming, validation seeking, anger, etc…)
Unhealthy mental health robs you!! We hate to put Mental on the name of anything connected to us. Because we have in our mind who we consider as mental. And that is Sad, because we fail to ask how that person got the way they are. It all starts somewhere. I am not a licensed therapist, counselor, or Dr. so, I will not come on this blog claiming to have textbook knowledge of these things. But what I will do, is my best in providing links from reliable and credible sources that can give you more information on these areas. But I can say this life is a teacher, a great one at that. Experience helps you help someone as much as God allows you to. Self care isn’t always about getting your nails done, going to a spa, riding out with your girlfriends for the weekend. That’s just outward care that only last for a moment. We have to learn how to balance this thing out. And take care of ourselves inwardly. So we can show up for ourselves balanced out. If we ignore taking the proper time out, that’s needed for us. We will begin to lose us. lose our drive for purpose, lose our chance for inward healing. I wanna encourage you on today. Stop allowing everyone to drown out with things that can wait or with things that you don’t possess the ability to fix. Those things have to be turned over to the lord. Stop carrying the weight of everyone else on your shoulder. You have enough on of your own weight your trying to carry. Turn that over to your creator.
1peter 5:6-9
6Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time: 7Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. 8Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: 9Whom resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world.
You wondering if anyone cares about you as much as you care and do for them. Yes Sis!! Jesus does. Stop putting off tomorrow what you can do Today!!!!!! Take care of You!!!!!!
I love you chick.